You're the average of the five people with whom you spend the most time.

Updated: Oct 5, 2020

I know you've heard that before, Tim Ferriss says it all the time on his podcast. You hear it from health and wellness coaches, financial gurus, personal growth writers -- anyone who talks about improving life.


Fit people have fit friends, Rich people have rich friends. Smart people have smart friends. Spiritual people have spiritual friends. Well, you get the idea.



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How do you shift your five people when you are trying to improve yourself? You don't want to be disloyal or reject the people in your life who might make you feel like it is ok to postpone your desired goal. You know the pals I'm talking about -- you're trying to drink less and they think that's lame. Or you want to get up early to exercise and they keep you up late eating popcorn and binging Netflix. You're trying to become more positive and they want someone to complain to. They're not malicious or anything, they just haven't made the same goals you have.


The good news is, you don't have to have an elaborate "break up" with platonic friends. Just fill your time with productive, happy, healthy people and productive, happy, healthy leisure time.


First -- look at the people you know who have achieved the life you want.


Your super healthy friend probably goes to a yoga or spin class. Go with her to her next yoga class.